This is a post I have ever seen in a forum and I want to say something about it. The following is the post.
I have tangled for feelings for a long time. I have been with my current boyfriend (Tag A) for 5 years and he is a very aspirant and capable boy. He operated a company after graduation which has gotten a great development. He treats me well and wants to get married to me even though I propose break repeatedly. But I always wonder whether I love him really or not because I even give my first sex to another boy (Tag B) whom I have loved for a long time. And B was parted from his girlfriend last year because the girl fell in love with a rich man. Now I have a liaison with B and I do not know how to select. If I select B, I worry about my poor future because I fail to see a good economy of him.
I am confused now and I can not decide. I hope your help.
My view:
What is the essence of marriage? Nobody can make it clear. But only one thing that can be determined is that each woman wants to get and increase happiness from marriage. Happiness comes from all things, such as substances, love, children, kinship, business etc., which can meet your inner desire.
So from this level, marry a wealthy man you do not love (A) is equal to marry a poor man you love (B). Let’s give the two boys 100 points.
A really love you. But I can not find that B loves you really. So B should be detained 10 points.
The added value of A will be increasingly high, while B’s economy condition is uncertain. Even considering your children’s future growth and cultivation, B should be detained 10 points again.
You have five years stable love relations with A. B parted from his girlfriend only a few months ago because of money. If someday B becomes rich or his girlfriend is gotten rid of by the rich man, a resurgence of love between them will probably come into being. As to this point, B also should be detained 10 points.
You give your first sex to B but not A. All right, give B ten points. But the reason is not that B is better than A.
A always gives you his care, but I can not find this from B. From a future view of your family status in your marriage, B also should be detained 10 points.
A, who insists on this Platonic love, is a rare man. B takes you as an analgesic after his lost love and captures your first sex. B also should be detained 10 points.
This is only a casual count, and B has only 60 points left. It is easy to determine which boy you should select.
We are all ordinary woman. We certainly hope we can get marred to men who love us and whom we love and can afford our basic living. It does not matter at all even if the man who loves you is poor. All the same, you will live an insipid, trivial but affectionate life. But if a man’s only advantage is just “I love him”, how do you make a select?
If I were you, I will not marry him. I prefer to marry a poor man who is ambitious and hard-working and can afford equal spirit exchange. Even though he fails to be successful, his clean and pure ideal still attracts me. It seems to me that the fact that you love a man can not reflect his advantage. But no one knows love durability. However, if a man can win your respect, the respect is stable. I think A is such a man. Why not select him?
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