What are the rules to becoming more attractive to the opposite sex? The first rule is fairly obvious: clean yourself and dress nicely! Besides that, there are two sets of rules commonly given to men and women to help improve their love life. Let’s analyze these rules and go a little deeper than just a blanket statement.
For Men: A man must want sex.
This is a generally accepted rule that is often misinterpreted by sensational marketing people. The truth of the matter is that men must be confident in their sexuality, not just constantly horny. Men who are afraid of sex, or intimidated by women, will have difficulty expressing romantic interest in a dating prospect.
On the other hand, a man who is enthusiastically determined to have sex will enjoy discussing the subject matter and enjoy flirting. That man will usually succeed in getting what he wants. The secret is not in just wanting sex, but in actually having a goal in mind.
It goes back to the basic law of attraction: you must know what you want. If you know you are in love or are physically attracted to someone then there is nothing shameful about expressing that. However, there is a proper way to communicate this and it will largely depend on the personality of the woman.
For Women: A woman must want to get a lot of attention from the opposite sex.
This isn’t a problem if you’re already with someone or you don’t want a partner at the time, but if you’re looking for a boyfriend and no one seems to be interested in you, this can be very demotivating.
So why is it that guys aren’t approaching you? Why is it you can’t find a boyfriend? You may not realise it, but you may be part of the problem. As your look for a man has become dragged out, is there any chance you have got frustrated by the whole process? Are you acting differently when meeting a guy they you would normally?
This often happens to people on the look out for a partner, without realising they often act more desperately then they would normally. This is why there’s the saying “You can’t look for a guy, you’ll only find someone when you’re not looking for them”. While this is a myth (You still have to put yourself in situations to find a guy) the theory behind it is very real. If you’re looking frantically looking for someone and getting worked that nothing is happening, your mentality around guys is going to change and guys will pick up on that. This will make you seem more un-attractive, hence why when you look you don’t get guys.
So how would you go about seeming more attractive to guys? While it’d be easy to say to “relax and be yourself”, it’s not as easy as that for everyone. So instead I’ll say “learn to be happy by yourself”. Now I’m not saying don’t look for a guy if the opportunity comes alone, but before you go out and look for a partner, learn to be comfortable being single. That could mean taking time to enjoy your own company (Reading books, having a movie night in, treating yourself to a spa treatment etc), spending time with the girlies, and just generally having a man free zone. Then when you do end up talking to guys, you’ll hopefully be more relaxed and more your normal bubbly self. This will make you seem more attractive to the guy, as desperation doesn’t look good on anyone.
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