In conclusion, happiness is the seed that needs to be nourished. Only in this way can the flower be revived and blooming here. Happiness can take different forms. It may be the brook murmuring through the hills; it may be the wind whispering in the tree; it may be the cloud floating in the sky. But first of all, happiness is a positive attitude towards everything. So come on, friends, you must know happiness is calling us. Seize your life with optimism, and be happy!

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The holidays are notorious for adding a large amount of stress during an already stressful time. When can you shop for gifts when you have to finish a report before New Years? What do you buy your parents? Can you afford an expensive gift for your spouse in this economy?

Stress. Stress. Stress.

But it doesn’t have to be this way! Here are four tips that will help you stay stress-free this holiday season:

Spend more time with family, and less with work.
The countdown to the New Year has begun and you see your work deadlines creeping up on the calendar. It’s natural to want to finish your work responsibilities as soon as possible but don’t let it interrupt family time. Instead, try heading into the office earlier, rather than bring your work home with you. That way, you have more time at the end of the day for family and even holiday shopping.

Take a dip.
After working 10-hour-days (to make up for the extra vacation time) you can feel yourself physically and mentally start to break down; your body begins to ache and your brain hurts. Get rid of these pains and make yourself sit in your local gym’s spa or relax in your own hot tub.

Hot tubs and spas are a great way to escape from a hectic day – even if it’s just for a half an hour. You will feel refreshed both physically and mentally in minutes.

Turn your hobby into a habit.

Remember those days when you loved playing golf on the weekends? Or going out with your girlfriends to get your nails done? Well, turn that distant memory into a date for next week. Spending time doing the things you love will be a nice break from shopping for gifts and decorating the house for the holidays.

Make time to exercise.
There are a number of reasons as to why you should stay healthy and fit: it will help you lose weight, add years to your life and prevent colds during flu season. More importantly, going to the gym this holiday season will keep you sane.

Aerobic exercise and weightlifting produce endorphins, the “happy” chemicals in your body. These chemicals are much needed during holiday season when the stress tries to take over. Don’t let it!

And don’t worry; you don’t have to run five miles to reach the “happy place.” Instead, sign up for a Yoga class to relieve stress. Kundalini Yoga is a great way to relieve stress naturally.

Remember, the holidays are a time to look forward to, not dread. Follow these four tips and you’ll be relaxed and ready to enjoy delicious food and time with family from the second you clock out.

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What needs to be pointed out is that there are serious flaws in the ways many people make career decisions. The first is complacency. They ignore challenging information about the choice they make and take the attitude that “It won’t affect me” or “it will never happen.”
A second flaw is defensive avoidance. When confronted with a decision and unable to believe they can find an acceptable solution, some people remain clam by resorting to wishful thinking or daydreaming or even procrastination.

A third flaw is hypervigilance. This occurs in career decision making when people believe there is not enough time to find a solution and they panic. They search frantically for career possibilities and seize on hastily contrived solutions, overlooking the consequences of their choice as well as other alternatives. People who are in a panic sometimes do not think clearly or logically.

The best coping behavior is vigilance. Vigilant dicision making occurs when people believe that 1) a choice should be made, 2) they can find a solution, and 3) there is enouth time. Under these conditions, people evaluate each alternative, and work out contingency plans in case one or another risk appears.

Key to Career Planning
1. Study yourself. This is the key to career planning. Understanding what you are like, what you value, and what you want to become is the foundation for all career planning. In studying yourself, you examine your strengths and weaknesses, your goals, and the trends in your personal development. The self-understanding that you gain enables you to imagine how certain occupations may best fit your personality, interests, abilities, and goals. All career decisions require us to learn both about ourselves and about work, and to integrate these two kinds of knowledge.

2. Write your career goals down. A technique useful for organizing ideas about your career development is to actually write them down by time blocks in your life, for example, ages nineteen to twenty-two, twenty-three to … Writing something down forces you to crystallize your thinking and to reorganize fuzzy and half-formed ideas. It may lead to new insights about your possibilities and may help you to see new relationships, patterns and trends, or to identify gaps in your thinking about your career development.

3. Set up some hypotheses or predictions about yourself in a career. Consider the kind of person you are, what you’re likely to be like, what changes are likely to take place in an occupation, what basic problems you might meet, and what you need to solve your problems. These hypotheses, or educated guesses, should represent your understanding of yourself at present, what you can do, and what you will do.

4. Review your plans and progress periodically with another person. Every so often, take stock of your situation and consider what steps have to be taken next. Taking inventory of progress and planning further steps can help you cope with the changes that you undergo and the changes that take place in the labor market. Talking over your plans with a college counselor, your parents, and your friends helps you defines your goals and improve your career plans or make them work.

5. If you choose a career that does not fit you, you can start over. Today, growing numbers of people are changing careers or getting second starts in careers that have greater appeal to them, Society no longer attaches the stigma of “instability” to the idea of career hopping, as it once did. Motives or reasons for changing careers vary widely, but many people move because they feel stale or fed up with a grinding or dull routine. For some, a second start grows out of the realization that what they want out of life is not what they are doing, and they decide to do those things they enjoy and believe to be important. Certainly, time spent in one occupation is likely to narrow the range of later occupational choices; very few people have the motivation and financial resources to start a completely new career in mid-life. Most people move to a related field that involves a minimum of new training.

Career planning does not guarantee that all the problems, difficulties, or decision-making situations that face you in the future will besolved or made any easier. Nor can any formula be given to do that. But career planning should help you to approach and cope better with new problems, such as deciding whether or not to enter educational or training programs, deciding whether or not to change jobs, and analyzing the difficulties you are having with a situation or a person.

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We’ve all had to work and do things that we did not especially enjoy. Usually, some chirpy person would tell us to be more enthusiastic. “You’ll have more fun,” they would say. Well, they were partly right.
Being enthusiastic about something means being excited about a given project. Enthusiasm entails having a strong interest in the task at hand. If you decided to learn a new language, which is not easy by any account, you would have to dedicate yourself wholehearted to the cause. Anything less would result in failure.

What is real enthusiasm? In your quest for success, enthusiasm means that you believe deeply in what the company is doing. You also believe that your job is important and contributes to the cause. It means that you’re willing to work your butt off to achieve the company’s goals.

Real enthusiasm is when you leap out of bed in the moring and attack your day with gusto. You have zeal for the work you do and the people you work with. This pushes you to improve and become a better person.

Enthusiasm means that you are stimulated by your work, and are able to find new challenges and keep growing professionally. Furthermore, most jobs have elements that are less fun and more difficult to carry out. This is where passion really comes into play.
When you love what you do, it isn’t too difficult to get psyched up and get the job done. The hard part is performing equally well in those less interesting tasks.

Passion helps you get ahead. Enthusiasm about a job or project usually translates into positive energy. That is, if you are excited about a project, you will be anxious to get started and get results. The mere fact of looking forward to your work will help make you more productive and effective. You will plan more effectively and pay careful attention to detail. You will carry out your plan more carefully and aim for the best results possible.

Another important point is that passionate people are usually those that are thrust into positions of leadership. A leader must have zest if people are to follow him and achieve the corporate mission. A leader must inspire his troops. To inspire them, he needs to exude enthusiasm. In leaders, this translates into charisma.

Being fervent about your work shows a willingness to do more and learn. This will definitely help you stand out form the crowd and get top management’s attention.

Increasing your enthusiasm Most men aren’t born great-they become great. Similarly, not everyone is the enthusiastic type that falls in love with their work. However, do not despair; there are ways to become more passionate.

One good way to boost your gusto is by reading about successful people, it will help you realize that you too can make it happen.
Reading about real success stories often illustrates that people much like yourself have become business leaders. In most cases, they all share one trait: enthusiasm.

If you want to succeed, you should be excited about your work, your life and your co-workers.

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The “other woman” my wife was encouraging me to date is my mother, a 72-year-old widow who has lived alone since my father died 20 years ago. Right after his death, I moved 2500 miles away to California and started my own family and career. When I moved back near my hometown six years ago, I promised myself that I would spend more time with Mom. But with the demands of my job and three kids, I never got around to seeing her much beyond family get-togethers and holidays.

She was surprised and suspicious, then, when I called and suggested the two of us go out to dinner and a movie. “What’s wrong?” she asked. My mother thinks anything out of the ordinary signals bad news. “I thoutht it would be nice to spend some time with you,” I said. “Just the two of us.” “I’d like that a lot,” she replied.

As I drove to her house, I acually had a case of predate jitters! What would we talk about？ What if she didn’t like the restaurant I chose?
When I pulled into her driveway, she was waiting by the door with her coat on. Her hair was curled, and she was smiling. “I told my lady friends I was going out with my son, and they were all impressed,” she said as she got into my car. “They can’t wait to hear about our evening.”

We didn’t go anywhere fancy, just a neighborhood place where we could talk. My mother clutched my arm, hald out of affection and half to help her negotiate the restaurant step. Since her eyes now see only large shapes and shadows, I had to read the menu for both of us. Halfway throuth reciting the entrees, I glanced up and saw Mom looking at me, a wistful smile on her lips. “I used to be the menu-reader when you were little,” she said. I understood what she was saying. From caregiver to cared-for, from cared-for to caregiver, our relationship had come full circle. “Then it’s time for you to relax and let me return the favor,” I said. We had a nice tlak over dinner. We talked for so long that we missed the movie. “I’ll go out with you again,” my mother said as I dropped her off, “But only if you let me buy dinner next time.” I agreed.

“How was your date?” my wife asked when I got home that evening. “Nice…nicer than I thought it would be,” I said. She smiled her told-you-so smile.

Mom and I go out for dinner a couple of times a month. Sometimes we take in a movie, but mostly we talk. I tell her about my trials at work and brag about the kids and Peggy. Mom fills me in on family gossip and tells me about her past. Now I know what it was like for her to work in a factory during World War Two. I know how she met my father there, and how they nurtured a trolley-car courtship through those difficult times. I can’t get enough of these stories. They are important to me, a part of my history. We also talk about the future. Because of health proplems, my mother worries about the days ahead. “I have so much living to do,” she told me once. “I need to be there while my grandchildren grow up. I don’t want to miss any of it.”

I tend to fill my calendar to the brim as I struggle to fit family, career and friendships into my life. I often complain about how quickly time flies. Spending time with my mom has taught me the importance of slowing down.

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In answer to such questions, I find men’s thinking is different from women’s.

Firstly, let’s analyze men’s answers.

“Why do you want to know me?” – “I want to be friends with you.”

“Why do you ask me to dinner?” – “I hope to see you again.”

“Why do you ask me to go to your house?” – “I want to have sex with you.”

Please note that the beginning of the three answers is “I want” or “I hope”, which is a typical character of men. As for men, the “know” “dinner”, “home” is to achieve his “wants” that results in the process.

Now I give you answers that women like.

“Why do you want to know me?” – “I will regret if I am not acquainted with you.”

“Why do you ask me to dinner?” – “I eat very little without you.”

“Why do you ask me to go to your house?” – “I can not fall asleep without you.”

We can conclude that answers women like are not based on the causal relationship of present and future, but description of the present time. In other words, in the minds of men, the future is more important than present, but in the minds of women, the present is more important than future. Compared to men, a woman is “living in the moment”.

Finally, I have to remind you that the answers of men will also be accepted if she really likes you. But the reason is that your charm attracts her. However, purely as a communication effect is concerned, she will be more satisfied with you if you act as women’s thinking.

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After I gave a talk on the subject of happiness, a woman in the audience stood up and said, “I wish my husband had come.” “Much as I loved him,” she explained, “it was not easy being married to someone so unhappy.” This woman enabled me to put into words what I had been searching for – altruistic, as well as the personal, reasons for taking happiness seriously. I told her that each of us owes it to our spouse, our children, our friends to be as happy as we can.

I was not a particularly happy child, and like most teenagers, I took pleasure in my anguish. One day, however, it occurred to me that I was taking the easy way out. Anyone could be unhappy; it took no courage and effort. True achievement lay in struggling to be happy. The notion that we have to work at happiness comes as news to many people. We assume it is a feeling that comes as a result of good things that just happen to us, things over which we have little or no control. But the opposite is true: happiness is largely under our control. It is a battle to be fought and not a feeling to be awaited. To achieve a happy life, it is necessary to overcome some stumbling blocks, three of which are:

Comparison with others Most of us compare ourselves with anyone we think is happier – a relative, an accquaintance or, often someone we barely know. I once met a young man who struck me as particulayly successful and happy. He spoke of his love for his beautiful wife and their three daughters, and of his joy at being a radio talk-show host in a city he loved. I remember thinking that he was one of those lucky few for whom everything goes effortlessly right. Then we started talking about the Internet. He blessed its existence, he told me, because he could look up information on multiple sclerosis- the terrible disease afflicting his wife. I felt like a fool for assuming nothing unhappy existed in his life.

Images of perfection Almost all of us have images of how life should be. The problem, of course, is that only rarely do people’s jobs, spouse and children live up to these imagined ideals. Here is a personal esample: no one in my family had ever divorced. I assumed that marriage was for life. So when my wife and I divorced after five years of marriage and three years after the birth of our son, my world collapsed. I was a failure in my own eyes. I later remarried and confided to my wife and I couldn’t shake the feeling that my family life had failed. She asked me what was wrong with our family now (which included her daughter from a previous marriage and my son). I had to admit that, aside from the pain of being with my son only half the time (my ex-wife and I shared custody), our family life was wonderful. “Then why don’t you celebrate it?” she asked. That is what I deceded to do. But first I had to get rid of a “perfect” family.

“Missing Tile” Syndrome One effecitive way of destroying happiness is to look at something and focus on even the smallest flaw. It is like looking at the tiled ceiling and concentrating on the space where one tile is missing. As a bald man told me, “whenever I enter a room, sll I see is hair.” Once you have determined what your missing tile is, explore whether acquiring it will really make you happy. Then do one of the three things: get it, replace it with a different tile, or forget about it and focus on the tiles in your life that are not missing.

We all know people who have had a relatively easy life yet are essentially unhappy. And we know people who have suffered a great deal but generally remain happy. The first secret is gratitude. All happy people are grateful. Ungrateful people can not be happy. We tend to think that being unhappy leads to complain, but it’s truer to say that complaining leads to people becoming unhappy.

The second secret is realzing that happiness is a by product of something else. The most obvious sources are those pursuits that give our lives purpose – anything from studying insects to playing baseball. The more passions we have, the more happiness we are likely to experience. Finally, the belief that something permanent transcends us and that our existence has some larger meaning can help us be happier. We need a spiritual faith, or a philosophy of life. Whatever your philosophy, it should include this truism: if you choose to find the positive in virtrally every situation, you will be blessed, and if you choose to find the awful, you will be cursed. As with happiness itself, this is largely your decision to make.

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You often hang on to your perception of reality, of how things “should be”, and don’t see how, by doing so, you harm the relationship. Becoming aware of your perception of reality and the factors which influence it enables you to become flexible, come towards your partner and develop a constructive, satisfying intimacy.

The case of Gail and Henry illustrates such a process.

Gail and Henry

Gail has been waiting for Henry to return home for the past two hours.

Suddenly the phone rings. She grabs it and says, “Hello?” in a loud, tense voice. “I’m at the office”, says Henry, “I got stuck at work. I’ll be home in another hour at the most. I just wanted to tell you so you wouldn’t worry”.

“But why didn’t you call earlier?” she snaps at him, “you know that I’m waiting”.

“I was in a meeting”, he replies.

Both of them put down the phone, mad at each other.

Your perception of reality affects your thoughts, emotions, reactions and behaviors

Gail

Gail’s perception of reality is that Henry should have returned home and be with her. She thinks it’s wrong that he didn’t call her earlier. She reacts with anger. She isn’t aware how it triggers and affects a whole spectrum of components:

Thoughts

Many thoughts may be going uncontrollably through Gail’s mind:

* Does Henry still love her?
* Is his work really more important to him than she?
* Could it be that he wasn’t in a meeting as he said?
* Could it be that he’s found someone else?
* Could he be angry with her for something she did?
* Are there things she should be doing otherwise?
* Could it be that the time has come for her to begin thinking more about herself instead of worrying and waiting for him every evening?

Thoughts like these often go through your head so quickly, that unless you consciously pay attention, you can’t follow them.

Interpretations

Gail is liable to interpret Henry’s delay in various ways:

* Maybe he prefers to be at the office instead of being with her.
* Maybe he doesn’t appreciate her enough.
* Maybe he’s bored with her.
* Maybe he’s going through a personal crisis that’s distancing him from her.
* Maybe he’s found someone else.

Emotions

The past experiences and the interpretations crossing Gail’s mind regarding Henry’s delay automatically dictate the emotions that she may feel, such as:

* Frustration
* Sorrow
* Anger
* Rage
* Pain
* Helplessness
* Worry
* Jealousy
* Resentment
* Rejection
* Apathy
* Worthlessness

Expectations

Gail may be angry at Henry and disappointed that he’s late because she had expectations:

* Maybe she anticipated a pleasant evening; that they would have a nice dinner together; that they would make love.
* Maybe she expected attention, pampering and touch.
* Maybe she wanted to pamper him this evening. Wanted… anticipated… and was disappointed…

Fears

One or more fears might arise in Gail, related to some of her past experiences (with her parents, Henry and / or previous partners):

* Fear of abandonment
* Fear of unfaithfulness
* Fear of rejection; losing love
* Fear of failure
* Fear of being alone
* Fear of feeling guilty
* Fear of shame

Reactions and behaviors

The thoughts, interpretations, emotions, expectations and fears that control Gail, cause her angry reaction on the phone, without being aware of it. She can also “recall” situations from the past that occurred with Henry, with previous partners or with her parents:

* Henry’s delay may be “reminding” her, at an unconscious level, of how her father never showed her any consideration.

* She may feel that her partners were always too busy with work at her expense.

* She may have been abandonment or cheated in the past, and Henry’s behavior is rubbing salt into her wound.

These past experiences, together with all other components, will shape Gail’s behavior towards Henry when he gets home:

* She might be remote and cold.
* She might not sit down to eat with him.
* She might withhold warmth, love and sex.

Whichever way Gail decides to behave, she’ll be driven by her own perception of reality.

Let’s see now how the same factors outlined above affect Henry’s perception of reality

Henry

Henry’s perception of reality is that it’s okay to call Gail and tell her he’ll be late. He behaves according to his perception of reality, which was shaped through his life. Like Gail, he isn’t aware how his perception of reality triggers and affects a whole spectrum of components in him too:

Thoughts

Many thoughts may be going through Henry’s mind when he hears Gail’s reaction on the phone:

* What’s making her so angry?
* Doesn’t she understand how busy he is?
* Doesn’t she respect his work?
* Doesn’t she appreciate the fact that he brings home a salary?
* What is she afraid of? She knows that he’s not cheating on her.
* What’s the problem, anyway? Even if she prepared dinner, they can eat later. That’s why they bought a microwave for, so they could reheat food.
* Why does she always worry so much?
* How is it that partners always get mad at him?

Interpretations

Henry is liable to interpret Gail’s reaction as meaning:

* She doesn’t appreciate his dedication to his work.
* She thinks only of herself and what’s good for her.
* She doesn’t love him the way she once did. She used to be more considerate of him.

Emotions

These thoughts and interpretations might arouse emotions, such as:

* Frustration
* Anger
* Rage
* Resentment
* Disappointment
* Apathy
* Suffocation; need for space
* Sadness

Expectations

Henry might be angry at Gail since he, like her, also had expectations:

* Maybe he expected that when he got home, they would have a pleasant evening and a nice dinner together.

* Maybe he expected her to pamper him, give him attention, sex.

* Maybe he expected to pamper her this evening, and wanted… anticipated… and was disappointed that he had to stay late at work, and Gail didn’t even understand, she just got mad.

Henry’s expectations might cause frustration and bitterness, maybe even an impulsive decision: from now on he’d better not plan ahead of time and not promise Gail anything before finishing work. He would get home once he got there.

Fears

One or more fears which are related to past experiences (with his parents, with Gail and/or with previous partners) may arouse in him:

* Fear of abandonment
* Fear of rejection, losing love
* Fear of failure of the relationship
* Fear of feeling guilty
* Fear of shame

Reactions and behaviors

All these components: thoughts, interpretations, emotions, expectations, fears and needs that Henry isn’t aware of, impact the way he reacts towards Gail. They can also “remind” him of situations from the past that occurred with her, with previous partners or with his parents:

* He may feel that Gail (or previous partners) always got mad at him or didn’t show him any consideration when he had to work late.
* He may have experienced rejection by other women in the past, and Gail’s reaction makes him feel misunderstood and unloved again.
* Gail’s anger may “remind” him, without his being aware of it, of his father or his mother, who would get angry at him when he behaved in ways they didn’t like.
* He may have learned from his experience with Gail and/or previous partners that when they get angry at him they penalize him, maybe by becoming remote or by withholding sex.

Past experiences, combined with all the other components, shape Henry’s reaction: rather than returning home, talking with Gail and trying to “make peace”, he might stay at work even longer, or call a friend and go out for a drink. In either case, his behavior might be driven by:

* Fear of abandonment, rejection or loss of love – wishing not to face Gail’s anger.
* A need for space, afraid that Gail will “suffocate” him with her demands for explanations.

Whichever way Henry chooses to postpone coming home, his behavior will further harm their relationship.

Becoming aware of your perception of reality facilitates the way to a successful intimate relationship

As the case of Gail and Henry illustrates, two perceptions of reality are present in every relationship: yours, and your partner’s. As long as you are not aware of the effect they have on your thoughts, feelings, attitudes, reactions and behaviors you will continue sabotaging your relationship.

Becoming aware of your perception of reality is a must if you wish to de-activate the power it exerts over you and become able to interact with your partner in ways vital for a successful intimacy.

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Now that I managed to simplify Carl Jung’s complicated method of dream interpretation everyone can easily reap all the benefits provided by this knowledge. You should be one of the first ones to take advantage of this new alternative. Dream interpretation will open a new horizon for you.

The unconscious mind that produces your dreams gives you objective information about the person you love in numerous dream images. Besides sending you many dreams about the person you love, the unconscious mind also sends you very simple dreams about the special person, which you can easily understand. Dreams about love are not as symbolic as dreams about psychological problems.

The unconscious mind will show you that your perfect match is someone who belongs to a similar psychological type to the psychological type you belong to, and has similar preferences.

The most revealing sign that you have really found the right person for you (which will surely help you understand your feelings) is the familiar physical characteristics of the person you love. In other words, your real perfect match should look like you in many ways.

When you fall in love with someone that physically looks like you, and who also has a personality quite similar to your personality, this is a serious indication that you have really found your perfect match.

Therefore, if you believe that you are in love with someone who is totally different from you, you are probably only feeling attracted for a while. However, this is not a physical law. What really matters is your psychological type and the psychological type of the person you love, even when your physical characteristics are quite different.

You have to be careful. You’ll tend to believe that you really love someone only because you like him or her in many ways. You may find numerous similarities with this person, even if this is not true. There are numerous impostors who look like your perfect match.

You may get involved with the wrong person and believe that you are in love, until the moment you’ll meet your real perfect match. However, if you’ll already have a love relationship with someone else, everything will be quite difficult, especially if you have children.

The same way that you can get involved with the wrong person for believing that you are in love while this is not true, you can also lose your soul mate if you’ll be superficial and you’ll doubt that you are really in love with him or her. Various neurotic reactions can prevent you from understanding that you have really found your perfect match. They can also distort your behavior.

If the person you love is too attractive, you may believe that many others feel exactly the same you do, without understanding that you are really in love with them. Or, you may feel so discouraged when thinking about your rivals that you will avoid trying to conquer this person, while they love you too, and they are ideal for you.

You may also be too rude or too snob with the person you love, only because you don’t want to reveal how much you depend on them. You may make them believe that you don’t want to have a love relationship with them, only because you are too proud of yourself and you are afraid of rejection.

This is why you need the unconscious psychotherapy and guidance. You have to understand your feelings and control your behavior. You must know if you have really found your perfect match or if this is only a false impression.

The unconscious mind will give you many explanations and lessons. You only have to study my dynamic simplification of Carl Jung’s method of dream interpretation in order to understand the unconscious language.

You’ll always have information about the person you love in your dreams. The unconscious mind will help you avoid bad relationships, prevent being cheated on, and avoid many deceptions. You’ll surely find your true soul mate, and lead a happy life forever.

Christina Sponias continued Carl Jung’s research into the human psyche, discovering the cure for all mental illnesses, and simplifying the scientific method of dream interpretation that teaches you how to exactly translate the meaning of your dreams, so that you can find health, wisdom and happiness.

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Another sign that indicates if your ex boyfriend still loves you is if he asks family and friend about you. The fact that your ex boyfriend doesn’t contact you any longer doesn’t really mean he has forgotten about you. If your friends tell you that he ask about you all the time, then that rings a bell that he is not over you yet. Asking mutual friends about you is something that he won’t be able to resist if he still loves you. He is definitely asking to get information about you: if you have moved on, what you have been doing, if you are happy with your life, etc. This lets you know how much he has been thinking about you. In a situation whereby he has stop contacting you, this could mean he is trying to find out how you would react and to see if you would make the initial move to make contact. Hence if you are asking, “Does my ex boyfriend still love me,” this is a positive indication that he does.

If your ex boyfriend still maintains contact, it shows that he wants to keep the lines of communication open. Since he still calls, sends text messages and emails you frequently, you shouldn’t ask does my ex boyfriend still love me. Whether he contacts you on the basis of beings friends doesn’t matter. The fact that he still contacts you shows that he doesn’t want to completely end the relationship with you, misses you badly and still loves you.

Does he show signs of jealously or being possessive? If he says something bad about any guy you might be seen with, it’s evident that he is being jealous. Also, he might be acting possessive; however these signs might not be obvious. For instance, he could be taking a sip of your drink without your permission, or believing you would take him back home in your car after a party, despite the fact that you both didn’t go there together. The fact that your ex boyfriend still act as though you both are still together shows that he is still into you.

Even if your ex boyfriend has been careful not to overwhelm you with phone calls and messages, this doesn’t necessarily mean you have been forgotten. If your ex boyfriend still loves you, he won’t be able to resist asking mutual friends about you. If your ex has broken off communication, this could mean he is testing you to see whether you will make the first move to get in touch. If your friends tell you your ex boyfriend is always asking about you, the love is almost certainly still there.

These are just a few signs that indicate he still loves you, however there are other sure signs that answers the question “Does my ex boyfriend still love me?” If he does one or more of these signs listed above, then he is still interested in you. But the fact that he shows these signs doesn’t necessarily mean you would get him back. There are things that led to the break up initially that must be resolved.

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